Tips for a Successful Night at a Happening Bar

Today I'm going to share some insights into the world of "happening bars," also known as "hap-bars." These bars cater to individuals with diverse sexual preferences, providing a space for them to connect and explore their desires. If you're new to this concept, buckle up, as I take you through my experience and offer some valuable tips for making the most of your time at a happening bar.

Understanding Happening Bars

Before we dive in, let's clarify what happens at a happening bar. These establishments are not your average nightlife spots. Patrons openly express their unique sexual proclivities, and when like-minded individuals connect, they can engage in various sexual activities, including sex, SM, swapping, orgies, and more. The act of having sex is referred to as "hapuru," and it usually takes place in designated playrooms or "happening rooms."

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Now, let's discuss costs. At the bar I visited, the room fee was 2,000 JPY, and this allowed us to use the room as many times as we wanted that day. It's important to note that women hold the power dynamic in these rooms. Men may try their luck at seducing the women, but if they're not interested, they will be met with a clear rejection. Respecting these boundaries is crucial, as persistent or unwanted advances can result in a ban from the establishment.

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Additionally, it's essential to understand that a "happening" is not guaranteed simply by walking into a hap-bar. The bar provides the space and opportunity, but it's up to you to make connections and initiate any activities. The admission fee is non-refundable, even if you don't end up participating.

My Experience at a Happening Bar

Now, onto the story of my visit to a happening bar. I was invited by my friend Misuzu, a former staff member at a famous restaurant in Shinjuku. The current owner of the bar, who was a regular customer at Misuzu's previous workplace, had asked her to manage his new establishment. So, I decided to show up on opening day with my girlfriend, Aika.

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The bar was discreetly located about a five-minute walk from the Roppongi intersection. With no signboard and a confusing entrance, it was clearly designed to be a hidden gem. We made our way downstairs and rang the intercom, where Misuzu greeted us enthusiastically. After a warm welcome, we proceeded to the membership registration process.

The lighting was dim, and club-type music created a relaxed atmosphere. We submitted our photo IDs and filled out membership forms with our personal information, including fake names to be used within the bar. Pseudonyms are a must, as calling each other by real names is forbidden. I chose the name "Taro," and Aika went with "Misa."

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After completing the necessary formalities, we were briefed on some important points, paid the registration and admission fees, and were ready to explore the bar. For a single male member like myself, the total cost came to 20,000 JPY, while Aika, as a female member, only needed to pay the 2,000 JPY registration fee, with no admission charge.

Misuzu then led us through the bar. We changed into slippers, stored our belongings in lockers, and made our way through the floors. I immediately noticed and appreciated two things: separate locker rooms for men and women, and four shower rooms, which would undoubtedly come in handy during busy times.

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The bar spanned three floors—the basement, first, and second floors. Interestingly, cell phone usage was restricted to the basement floor, likely to prevent any privacy invasions or unwanted recordings.

As we toured the establishment, I particularly admired the playrooms, all of which featured magic mirrors. These mirrors allowed for a unique viewing experience, providing the option to see or not see the floor from inside the room with the flick of a switch.

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After the tour, we settled at the counter on the first floor and started our evening with some drinks. The crowd was sparse, with only a few other customers. We chatted with Misuzu and some of her acquaintances, including a young man named Takashi, who was eager to learn how to navigate the world of hap-bars successfully.

Tips for a Memorable Night

Now, onto the tips for having a great experience at a happening bar. It's important to remember that these tips are not just for happening bars but can also be applied to regular bars.

First, pay attention to your nails. Keep them short and neatly trimmed. Women are conscious of the fingers of men who may enter their most intimate spaces, so long or dirty nails can be a major turn-off and a deal-breaker for hapuru.

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Second, refrain from explicit seduction. Avoid boasting about your penis size or your supposed sexual prowess. While patrons are there to fulfill their sexual desires, it doesn't mean they are open to anyone. Most women, except for those with dominant personalities, tend to shy away from vulgar men who use explicit expressions.

Third, be considerate of others' feelings. Try to understand why women are visiting the bar and how they are feeling. Remember, people have diverse sexual proclivities, so she may not be looking for sex with men, she may just want to observe, or she may be seriously seeking a same-sex partner.

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Fourth, while looks may play a role, cleanliness is more important. Good-looking men might have an advantage, but some women find excitement in the fact that "an ugly, fat, middle-aged man is having sex with me." There's no need to be self-conscious about your appearance as long as you maintain proper hygiene and avoid making others uncomfortable with body odor or bad breath.

Fifth, embrace the fun of cosplay. Most hap-bars provide costumes, so dive into the experience and wear them. This creates a more relaxed and daring atmosphere, making it easier for others to approach you and reducing the chances of being ignored.

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Sixth, consider entering the bar as a couple. It's easier to be approached by other couples if you and a woman enter together rather than alone. Additionally, having a woman initiate conversation with another woman can reduce wariness, increasing the possibility of swapping or a threesome.

Seventh, be mindful of personal space. Even if a woman is looking for sex, respect her boundaries and don't suddenly invade her personal space. Be polite, smile, and gradually close the distance as you build a connection.

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Lastly, avoid asking annoying questions. While you're enjoying the privacy and anonymity of the bar, remember to respect others' privacy too. Using a fake name adds to the fun, but don't pry into personal details such as where they live, what they do, or their age.

In conclusion, while Aika and I didn't end up "hap-ing" that day, we thoroughly enjoyed the good conversation and drinks. Thanks to the valuable advice we received, I felt like I got my money's worth from the admission fee!