Got Banned From The Happening Bar!

This is the story of how I got banned from a happening bar the first time I went to one in my life.

A happening bar is a bar where interactions between customers are expected. While it looks like an ordinary bar from the outside, many customers come here to enjoy these "interactions."

In the specialized jargon, "hapuru (happening)" refers to sexual intercourse.

During the Golden Week holidays, I went to a happening bar in Shinjuku.

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Why did I go to a happening bar?

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Well, I had never been to one before, and I was bored.

According to my senior, anything goes at a happening bar, and I was looking forward to it.

This particular bar had a daytime session from 12 pm to 5 pm and a nighttime session from 7 pm to 5 am the following day. There are many housewives during the daytime session.

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While the daytime session intrigued me, I decided to go for the nighttime one, supposedly the main event.

Checking the price list, the daytime session was a drinking-all-you-can for men at 12,000 JPY, while women could drink for free. The nighttime session was 18,000 JPY for men, and women still drank for free.

Arriving at the Happening Bar

I arrived at the bar a little past 8 pm.

It seemed to be a strictly members-only establishment, and I was asked to present a photo ID at the entrance, which I did, and then completed the membership process.

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After finishing the membership formalities and paying the fee, I stepped inside and was surprised to find a very classy interior.

There were two female bartenders and one male master behind the counter.

The interior was stylishly designed, with red as the dominant color, creating a pleasant atmosphere.

The bar could accommodate over 20 people, with about 10 counter seats and three four-person booths at the back.

There was a couple in one of the booths at the back, two men in the booth in front of them, and a man and a woman sitting at the counter.

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I was guided to the counter and ordered a beer.

I chatted a bit with the female bartender while looking around the bar.

About 15 minutes later, the couple at the back started getting intimate.

They kissed, and when the man started caressing the woman's chest, I saw my chance. I stood up, moved to the seat next to the woman, and began stroking her chest along with the man.

However, the man became furious.

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"What do you think you're doing?!"

"Huh?"

(But this is a happening bar; isn't anything supposed to be allowed?)

"Get out!"

"Huh? O-okay, I understand..."

(This is strange. Does this mean I can't join in on the action? I thought anything goes...)

Reluctantly, I returned to my seat and continued drinking. Then, I heard voices from behind me.

"Let's go to a room."

"Eh? You mean a group session?"

"Yeah, let's do it."

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Apparently, the couple and the two men in the booths were about to start a group session.

Seeing another opportunity, I asked if I could join them.

However, I was politely but firmly rejected.

Feeling Dejected

Dejected, I started drinking heavily.

Since it was an all-you-can-drink setup, I didn't hold back and kept ordering highballs and shochu (a Japanese distilled beverage) with water. As the alcohol took effect, I ended up touching the butt of one of the female bartenders as we passed each other on the way to the toilet.

"Aaah!"

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Even though I was drunk, I knew I had made a grave mistake.

The master sternly reprimanded me, and I was ultimately banned from the bar.

Of course, there was no question of a refund.

I was kicked out and don't remember how I made it home.

Lessons Learned from the Happening Bar

A few days later, after the Golden Week holidays, I confessed to my senior about getting banned and asked him several questions.

"Senior, I thought anything goes at a happening bar?"

His answer was enlightening.

"Anything goes, but only with consent. You can't just do whatever you want without getting permission first. Touching someone without their consent is a no-no."

"Is that so?"

"Yes, and touching the staff, even if you're drunk, is an instant ban. There are unspoken rules that you need to be aware of before going to such places."

"I understand..."

"Yeah, you know, there are unspoken rules you need to learn before you go."

"O-okay... "

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So, I asked this senior, who had been to happening bars over a hundred times, to teach me the rules, and I've summarized them here.

If you ever find yourself going to a happening bar, please use these as a reference.

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1. Touching female staff will get you banned

At a happening bar, touching a female staff member without permission will result in an immediate ban, even if you're drunk. The same goes for fellow customers – communicating and getting permission first is necessary.

2. Don't intrude on others' play without permission

Just because a couple is getting intimate doesn't mean you can join in without asking. If you're interested in the woman, start by talking to the man and understanding their purpose for being there. They might just want to put on a show, or they might want to offer their partner to others, or they could be newcomers checking out the scene. And even if you could have “hapuru” with your girlfriend, you would still need the permission of the man.

3. Aim to be well-liked

Instead of approaching female customers directly, start by interacting with the manager, master, bartenders, staff, and regular customers. If they like you, good things are more likely to happen.

The master might suggest to a female customer, "Why don't you sit next to this guy? He's a nice person," or a regular customer might invite you to join a group session they're about to have.

4.  Know when to give up

It's okay to initiate a conversation with a female customer for “hapuru”, but if you sense that she's not interested, move on. Don't push it, thinking that a little more persuasion might work. You'll not only waste her time but also ruin potential opportunities for other men.

5. Not everyone is there for the same reason

Just because someone is at a happenng bar doesn't mean they're there for the hapuru. Some women might be there just for the free drinks or because they enjoy the slightly risqué atmosphere.

6. You can choose not to watch

On my third visit, I realized that the playroom in that bar was made of glass, and you could see what was happening inside. I once saw an unattractively ugly couple in action, and it made me feel sick. Remember, you don't have to watch what you don't want to see.

7. Always seek permission

Whether sitting next to someone, starting a conversation, going to a room, or kissing, always get permission first, not just from women but from everyone. Refrain from assuming and taking action on your own.

8. Choose your words carefully

Some women might be put off by direct questions like, "Do you come here often?" or "Have you had any action yet?" Similarly, asking a woman who just came out of the playroom, "How about you and me next?" lacks delicacy. Even in a place that seems full of libertines, many women will be put off by such direct approaches.

Conclusion

There are many housewives during the daytime session because exchanging contact information with other customers is prohibited. This rule eliminates the risk of their affairs being discovered.

The main reason I recommend happening bars is the opportunity for group sessions. In a regular sex club, group play can be quite expensive, but happening bars offer a more affordable option.

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Well then…